FRIENDLY HEADS UP: The topic covered today can be a touchy one, if the idea/on going argument and debate about same-sex marriages and the topic overall are not up your alley, feel free to move along. 🙂
“So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.”
There’s something I’ve come to notice that the world has constantly fought upon, spent wars over, riots and debates. It’s torn families apart, it’s started bloody wars, it’s ripped friend from friend, turned brother on brother, and it slips around like a shadow, it’s there, people see it, people comment on it, people step over it, but no matter how we look at it, it seems it is always there.
I think it is perfectly okay to have same sex marriages.
I’m not even homosexual myself, but I support it one hundred percent. I don’t know why really, but I do. Because no matter how I twist my head, turn myself this way and that, listen to what others say, I can never find anything wrong with it.
Perhaps one of the biggest arguments around it centers from the church. I, myself, as a Catholic, have been raised to believe in the sanctity and honor that is holy matrimony, to understand the God did not create Adam and John, he created Adam and Eve. And because of that, God never meant for people of the same sex to be married. Nowadays, thankfully, the church smiles and is fully supportive of homosexuals, but not of same sex marriages under the idea that it is not meant to be.
But the thing is, if it was never meant to be, why would God have ever let people love each other like that in the first place? If God never meant for people of the same sex to fall in love, for there to be people like that, why are they here?
A different, more secular argument follows the idea that marriage is something that has always been between a man and a woman, and it should be like that. To some, they just don’t feel that it’s the same to allow same sex marriages, that it’s not as meaningful. My mother herself is completely fine with homosexuals, she just doesn’t really like the idea of same sex marriage.
But when I hear that, I can’t help but think of the fact that marriage is supposed to be between two people who love each other. Marriage is a commitment, it is looking into someone else’s eyes, looking at them and deciding this, this is the person I want to spend the rest of my life with. It is a bond, a promise between two people to belong to each other, and only each other. Marriage is about love.
So shouldn’t the only thing that matters be whether or not you love them?
But the sad thing is, while this is a major, constantly brought up topic, it is also an abused one. Some people take advantage of such ideals and discriminations, using the idea of sympathy towards gays to their advantage to make themselves appear to be the victim. Violent riots have started, arguments, debates, all wrongfully trying to use the idea of gay inferiority to their advantage.
And that’s wrong.
I understand that change is weird, it’s scary. It’s different, and when things have been fine the way they always were, why should we change? What if something bad comes of it? But then again, whoever said things were perfect? Who decided that things had to be this way, who made up the rules? Who said this is wrong? And if someone did make these rules, decide on these “laws”, why is it wrong? Why is it wrong for two people who are so in love with each other that they’re willing to give themselves to each other, to them for the rest of their lives wrong?
I believe with all my heart, that two people who truly love each other and are willing to spend the rest of their lives together with each other deserve to be married.
Throughout history, we’ve always been fighting because of what we believed in, for the sake of being able to express our rights, our freedoms. We’ve fought to get where we are today, living in a country where we can say what we want without fear of being shunned, thrown into some jail because it’s not allowed.
But shouldn’t the only thing that ever matters is whether or not they love each other? Isn’t that question? Not whether or not its wrong, not whether or not its normal, but whether or not these two people love each other.
And as long as the answer is yes, what’s wrong with that?